If you’re under 30 and in a relationship right now, and you’re not head over heels, get out. You are way too young to be wasting your time with someone who doesn’t make you really happy to be with them every day. There’s nothing sadder than watching 23-year-olds settle.
Anonymous asked: I find it disappointing that you are someone who went through a miscarriage and was devastated by it but you're still supportive of other women murdering their babies.
Well since I’m on my lunch break and feeling a bit stubborn, let’s address this inflammatory shit with some bullet points:
• My miscarriage has jack shit to do with any other woman, her pregnancy, her own personal struggles, or her private medical decisions. It is illogical to think that forcing other women to continue a pregnancy has any effect on me or my past. It changes nothing; it only hurts more women.
• I am not able to provide her with health insurance or money to feed, clothe, and shelter potential kids. Do you plan on helping?
• I unapologetically place a higher value on born, sentient women with lives, aspirations, hopes, and love than on a fetus that cannot think or feel or know a thing.
Well I’ll go a little farther.
Here’s a scenario for you:
So let’s say you do succeed in guilting a woman into carrying-to-term. GOLD STAR FOR YOU! I’m sure it doesn’t matter to you that maybe her husband beats the shit out of her, or she has three other kids that she’s already struggling to feed, or that she has health (whether physical or mental) problems that would make a pregnancy dangerous, or that maybe she’s so far at the end of her rope that she’s contemplating suicide over this, which means that fetus you care so much about goes down with the ship. But a fetus matters more than the burden of pregnancy, right? And, afterall, she could always give that baby up for adoption, of course, right? Well, yeah, if you happen to have a very limited world view of this golden utopia filled with healthy, white babies being adopted out to lovely, heterosexual Christian couples, then sure.
Have you ever had a four year old tell you he wants to die? That he’s going to kill himself? That his daddy touched him and mommy beat him so he was sent to live with foster family after foster family, being dumped each time within months, molested, completely torn to pieces? I have. I have worked with these kids. This is what often happens when adoptions fall through, or kids can’t be placed. Our system is already overloaded with broken, battered children. And it’s fucked up. So why don’t you care about those living kids? The ones that need love and care and therapy and a real, true family? Why can’t you fight for them?
I can’t respect anyone who claims to value the sanctity of life while simultaneously digging graves for thousands of women.
Why don’t they matter?
Really, just mind your own uterus. Take this irrational mindset and apply ‘life’ to those who are already living and struggling immensely. And if you think that it’s a good idea to hand women’s reproductive decisions off to a predominately male-dominated government, well… that’s fucking terrifying.