In my next life I want to be reincarnated as your spine so I can know how you felt whenever you tried so hard to stand up after life left you so crippled, every time.
Are you a Perfectionist?
- You are highly conscious and hyper-critical of mistakes. Hence, you have an extremely sharp eye toward details.
- You aim to be the best in everything you do, even if it is something that you are not interested in.
- You spend copious amount of time, right down to the last moment, to perfect something. You would rather sacrifice your well-being (such as sleep, eating time, etc) than let something be less than it can be.
- You set absolute ideals. There is only black and white, no grey.
- You are the harshest critic of yourself. You would beat yourself up over the smallest thing that went wrong, to the extent of being neurotic.
- You mull over outcomes if they did not turn out as envisioned. You wonder why it wasn’t a different outcome, and whether you could have done anything to prevent that.
- You are defensive toward criticism and have a fear of failure because they suggest imperfection.
- You only have the end goal in mind. If you don’t achieve the goal, it really does not matter what happens in the process.
- You have an all-or-nothing approach. If the situation does not allow him/her to achieve the standard he/she laid out, he/she will abandon the task because it does not make sense to spend time on something that he/she is not going to conquer.
- You are very conscious of any situation which might give others the perception you are not perfect.
Do you Lack Self Confidence?
1. Undervaluing your experience and abilities; writing yourself off as being “no good at anything”
2. Accepting the blame for things when it isn’t your fault
3. Holding back, especially in groups, and dreading sharing your opinion – or anything about yourself or your life; being very shy and reserved
4. Having unrealistic, perfectionist standards for yourself – and at the same time being highly self-critical
5. Obsessing over things that went wrong in the past (especially if was something you said or did)
6. Being preoccupied with the negative outcomes and potential failures (And what people will think of you – as a consequence of that)
7. Being fearful of a wide range of people and situation; dreading going, or doing, something new
8. Doing things to please others – even when it’s things you really don’t want to do (for fear of disapproval, rejection, or losing face)
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The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person - without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.
Do you Suffer from Low Self-Esteem?
1. A lack of self love. Believing that, deep down inside, you are inadequate and inferior.
2. Feeling guilty all the time. Torturing yourself about everything you said or did – even although it is relatively small or insignificant.
3. Lacking a sense of belief in yourself. Always thinking you are going to fail, or “get it wrong”.
4. Living with a constant feeling of self-rejection and self-loathing. Sometimes this is related to secrets you are burying about yourself. But, more commonly, it is because the person is trying to ‘be perfect’ so that others will like and accept them.
5. Having unrealistic expectation of others – then being angry and disappointed when they fail to live up to those standards.
6. Not trusting others to be there for you, to keep on liking you and being your friend, or to be faithful, loyal and reliable.
7. Being focused on your limitations and inadequacies instead of your areas of growth and development. Feeling you will never change, be happy, or make any progress in life.